Mantras and Affirmations
Those of you who
have spent even a bit time on any other quit smoking venues
will probably have heard all sorts of quit smoking mantras and
positive affirmations. For instance... 'one day at a time'.
While on the surface 'one day at a time' seems reasonable advice,
what's usually going on is 'hanging on one day at a time'. I'll
agree that one day at a time is easier than hanging on for the
rest of your life... but the bottom line is that it's still
hanging.
And then there's
"I AM A NON SMOKER!!". I only wish desire and shouted
affirmations were effective quit tools. But most of us have
tried them and found that our auto pilot doesn't care about
our desires and most of the time seems to be completely deaf
to our shouting.
Here's another,
"An urge will pass whether you smoke or not."? The
question here is when will it pass and how much hanging on will
have to be done until it passes?
And this one, "I'm
a puff away from a pack a day". What I don't understand
is if you don't want to be a smoker, why would you even take
a puff.... unless your quit is really little more than being
a smoker who isn't lighting cigarettes.
I dislike quit smoking
mantras. I dislike quit smoking positive affirmations. I know
that makes me sound like some sort 'quit smoking curmudgeon',
but there is a reason for those dislikes. Most of the quit smoking
community and the vast majority of quit smoking programs use
either a hang on approach or they waste time and energy doing
things that don't address the core reasons why we smoke. Those
core reasons are body cues. The problem with every quit smoking
mantra or affirmation I've ever heard is that they don't help
to put us where we need to be in order to take care of our body
cues.
All of that said,
I believe we do need something to anchor us from time to time.
Many who have used the cogquit program have found the Foundation
Statements to be useful. However, a while back my wife, who
has never smoked, wrote something that I think is remarkable
in it's simplicity and accuracy and ... would be a great mantra
for our group.
So I would like
to offer the following as the Cognitivequitting mantra:
"My lungs need
air not smoke.
My muscles need stretching not cigarettes.
My stomach needs nourishment not nicotine.
My brain needs stimulation not a stimulant."
Repeat that as needed
to refocus on your quit.
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